Yes it does, when you least expect it. The phenomenon known as Mommy Brain can be defined as the degradation of one’s short term (and sometimes long term) memory following the birth of children. Its real. Make no mistake about it, I’ve experienced it first hand.
Before the arrival of Shorty #1, I didn’t even need to keep a calendar. Important dates and appointments were entrenched in my little brain like a photograph. But now, its a whole different story. Everything goes on my Google calendar which J and I share and (thanks to my favorite Nerd husband) is colour coded for each of our family members. I need this. Trust me.
The arrival of Mommy Brain along with #1 came as a real shock. As you now know, I am a type-A personality. I like to be organized and keep everything together. But the capacity to fulfill even the simplest tasks, let alone remembering appointments was degraded completely from a combination of sleep deprivation and crazy hormone imbalance.
I remember one foggy morning attempting to make a pot of coffee, I filled the machine with water and grounds and walked away. A little while later I heard a weird hissing sound. Yep, the pot was still sitting on the counter while the black gold was pouring out of the machine all down the front of the cupboard door. Awesome! Its still stained to this day. I don’t know if I was more upset about the mess or actually having to wait for another pot to brew. Another time, catching up with J listening to him recount his day at the office I actually wiped his nose with a tissue. Are you freaking kidding me? I just wiped a grown man’s nose. Get a grip sister!
#2 is now 2 years old and I wish I could say it was getting better. Maybe it has a little, but we are definitely nowhere near the pre-natal levels of brain function. To be honest, I think that even though the sleep is getting better and the hormones are re-balancing, the hectic pace of daily life creates the same issues. Just the other day after the usual crazy morning of getting everyone dressed, fed etc I realized as I arrived at the office that I had left my beloved cellphone on the kitchen table at home and had to go all the way back home to fetch it.
At least I knew where the phone was! Last week we were hosting a BBQ and Shorty #2’s diaper leaked… while sitting on my lap. I came in from the backyard to change us both and dropped my sunglasses somewhere. Couldn’t find them for days. Made me crazy. Eventually I found them on a shelf in the closet, obviously left there during my wardrobe change.
I wish I could say the kids help ease the problem, but seriously I swear they like to f%^$ with me. On a recent vacation, I swore I packed a pair of flip flops and they were missing. I was sure I was losing my mind only to find them tucked away in the hotel room safe – courtesy of Shorty #2.
So to all my harried friends out there juggling a million things, know you’re not alone when your memory fails and your brain gives up on you! XO
Wish I could say that it gets better. When I am getting chores done around the house I walk into a room and ask myself, “why did I come in here?”. So I return to the last room I was in and sometimes I remember.
Actually, it get better for a while. Then dementia sets in.
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