As a rather tightly wound, type-a personality with a penchant for absorbing and experiencing stress – swearing gives me a chance to blow off a little steam. Who’s kidding who – swearing is f@#%ing cathartic!
Trouble is, with the arrival of the Shorties we have had to curtail the swearing around the house. F@#%! Seriously, having kids only creates MORE opportunity to swear. Examples:
1. You just spilled yogurt into the gear shift of my car. S#*&!
2. All bundled up to leave the house and someone poops. B@lls!
3. The SuperMom at school drop off lays the guilt trip about you missing the next field trip because you have to work. B+^$#!!!
See? So many opportunities when a good F-bomb would help ease the pain, but NO. Our little dears are still in the throes of language acquisition and what if they (GOD FORBID) dropped a little F@#% you to the preschool teacher – all those years of good parenting and behaviour modelling goes straight out the window.
The real trouble is when I get home from being on the road. The music business isn’t exactly… dainty… EVERYONE swears… A LOT! I have to get all my swearing out on the plane. I have to be so cautious not to let one slip when I’m back in the family fold and when I do I have to start rhyming to cover up. TRUCK, LUCK, SHUCKS. HIT, BIT, WIT. ITCH, SNITCH, WITCH. TRAP, FLAP, CHAP.
In our house we have some emphatic substitutes. They aren’t very creative but they work. For instance a long drawn out EFFFFFFFF can ease the pain.
A friend once sent me the best book ever “Depraved and Insulting English” by Peter Novobatzky and Ammon Shea. Its full of swears that no one knows. So I can swear away when the kids are around and they don’t bat an eye! Words like:
Gundygut /GUN dee gut/ n – an offensive, mannerless eater. As in “YOU GUNDYGUT”
Shilpit /SHILL pit/ adj – Feable, puny or sickly. Weak, good for nothing, watered down. As in “THAT’S SHILPIT”
Or when stretched for a quick retort, one can always pick-up the quote made famous by Will Ferrell in the movie Elf – “SON OF A NUTCRACKER.”
The truth is, finding a satisfying way to let the swears fly just takes is a little f@#%ing creativity.